(originally posted under the title) 10 Things That Turn Men on to a Classy Woman (Like You) 

May 12, 2017

Jim Sliney, Jr



The classy woman, “the lady,” is not to be underestimated or taken lightly. She is a person of great compassion and self-worth, and it is a rare man who has the honor of her affection. Here are just some of the signs that you are in the presence of a true lady.

 She exhibits emotional control
No matter what is going on she keeps her cool. She may laugh, or shoot a withering glare but she will not make a show out of over-expressing herself to get attention. She is better than that.

 She wants you; she doesn’t need you
If a lady chooses to be in your company, don’t take that for granted. You aren’t there because she can’t live without you (because she can, definitely, live without you), you are there because she wants you to be.

 She can hold her own in conversation
The lady does not speak for the sake of speaking. She has ideas, opinions and makes a good sparring partner in conversation.

She is well groomed but not narcissistic
A lady is always neat and thoughtfully styled but never obsessed with her appearance. This is one reason people are drawn to her – her glamour feels effortless, not gaudy or overdone. She does not hide her natural beauty under caked-on makeup nor does she accessorize with excessive jewelry.

She shows compassion
What really makes “class” is not wealth in the purse, it is wealth in the heart. A lady is kind and considerate to everyone. She finds no pleasure in cruelty or sarcasm – she just naturally cares for others.

Her wardrobe balances fashion with sensibility
A lady doesn’t need to wear heels that a fashion model couldn’t even walk in. Neither will she show you parts of her body that are reserved for intimate company. Fashions and standards change but she is not trying to draw attention with flash or vulgarity – she will do that with her heart and mind.

 She doesn’t strive to be the center of attention
There are times to speak and times to listen. She is not the loudest person in the room but when she speaks, she is not timid. If you want her attention you will have to earn it. She is not giving it away.

 She takes responsibility for herself
A lady is no coward. She understands that she must stand behind everything she says and does. This is partly why she doesn’t spew nonsense unnecessarily – her words have meaning, as do her actions.

 She will not be taken for granted
Woe unto you who takes a lady for granted. She knows her value and her self-esteem is healthy. If you do not know how to appreciate her, she will move on from you.

 She approaches the passage of time with grace
She does not consider time her enemy. Why? Because aging is natural; it is the way of things. A lady sees the passage of time as an opportunity to obtain wisdom. She will not fight it tooth and nail like it was an enemy of her self-worth.


I’m happy to say that as of 5/15/17 this article broke a record at www.womenworking.com for engagement with readers. It has been read by over 54K people. Like all the great content that comes out of Women Working, it is a team effort, so thank you to my friend and mentor Helene Lerner, and to the web editors that improved my writing, Britt Parsons and Andria Park.

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