So don't hate my beard. Come to think of it, just don't hate anything, it gives you ulcers. I will now open the room to questions. 🙂
At the heart of the Effect, is the individual - the self. The Effect considers the self, not merely as an independent being, but rather as the center of a web of impacts and relationships
When you go into that much detail you're going to make some great choices (the love between Aragorn and Arwen) and some terrible choices (Wizards that telekenese each other off walls and a Galadriel who turns green when she's delivering dramatic lines?) and no one is going to be completely satisfied.
When I was meeting many people who were seemingly disconnected from care and support networks the predominant impulse was to get them help. But of course, one person cannot provide many people with everything they need to prop them up and correct their loneliness and detachment.
Envision your ever expanding circles and realize, you are not alone. You are part of a rich and diverse community of beings. The Community Effect makes us feel less alone. So please, practice it, pass it on, and be a good neighbor.
A way to think about it is through process of elimination: what if everything in the universe disappeared except for the people I know? Who would be left? If we use that model then a good question might be: How different would my list be if my wife conducted that same thought experiment? I would still be in that community, but other people that I know (but she does not know them) would disappear.